Sean Stephenson

Anytime you’re trying to prove yourself to someone, it’s a form of arrogance. When you’re
trying to improve yourself, it’s a form of confidence.
– Sean Stephenson

You’ll go further when you stop competing and start cooperating with yourself.
– Sean Stephenson

Any bozo can start something. It takes a badass to finish.
– Sean Stephenson

To stay happy you need to be vigilant over what goes into your mind and out of your mouth.
– Sean Stephenson

If you have a heartbeat, there’s still time for your dreams.
– Sean Stephenson

Humans love to be “sick” or “sad” because that’s when their tribe rushes to comfort them.
Careful, pity is addictive.
– Sean Stephenson

Choose the words you say to yourself wisely; they are creating your reality.
– Sean Stephenson

It’s silly to worry about what others might be saying and thinking about you. Whatever
they’re saying, it’s not really about you – it’s about them. In fact, what people say or think
about you is a direct reflection of what they may be feeling about themselves. Don’t even
think about it.
– Sean Stephenson

Whenever I share my secrets to success & happiness, many people roll their eyes and say,
“Nah, that’s too simple!”
– Sean Stephenson

In your life you’ll be criticized for speaking up and criticized for remaining silent. Criticism is a
part of the path.
– Sean Stephenson

Creating heaven on earth will take raising some hell.
– Sean Stephenson

The next time you find yourself stressing out, look for what’s funny in the situation instead of
what’s “not fair.”
– Sean Stephenson

Pain is inevitable. Eventually, it touches us all. Suffering, however, is optional.
– Sean Stephenson

No one stumbles into an awesome life, filled with wealth, health, and love. Epic lives are the
result of epic planning.
– Sean Stephenson

You a PUA? Consider evolving to a FLA. What’s that? A “finding love artist.” Casual sex is
nowhere near as cool as love.
– Sean Stephenson

Life is a process of growing into your greatness.
– Sean Stephenson

I came to understand that motivating people for an hour on stage was not enough. I wanted
to help the people in my audience develop a life that was free of inner strife and outer chaos.
Inspiring quotes, colorful stories, and lighthearted activities weren’t enough to bring about
change on a deeper level.
– Sean Stephenson

Gratitude is simply focused appreciation. It is nearly impossible to be upset in a space of
gratitude.
– Sean Stephenson

The best friendships are void of guilt and keeping score.
– Sean Stephenson

Next time you’re in a bad mood, stop and check in with your body. If you’re feeling angry,
notice how your body is in an angry posture (fists clenched, shoulders hunched, lips in a tight
line), your voice has an angry tone, and you breathe at a fast, ragged, angry rate. If you
wanted to, you could intervene at any time and feel something different – simply by shifting
your body into a happy posture: hands open, shoulders down, mouth curving upward in a
smile, voice with a more upbeat tonality, breathing relaxed. Like magic, you’d feel better.
– Sean Stephenson

When you attempt to please others by doing what doesn’t please you, the result is always
resentment.
– Sean Stephenson

As crass as it may sound, sometimes life does suck! Our challenge is to pull through and trust
that we can alter the future with each choice we make in the present.
– Sean Stephenson

Your “poor me” story doesn’t keep you company; it keeps you hostage.
– Sean Stephenson

The only thing that has ever held you back from having what you want in life is the size of
your BUT… Our BUTS are huge. And the longer we sit on them, the more they continue to
grow! Here are just three examples that people who are stuck on their BUTS have shared
with me over the years:
“I’d exercise and eat right, BUT I just don’t have the time!”
“I’d quit smoking, BUT I’m too stressed out.”
“I’d ask that girl out, BUT what if she rejects me?”
– Sean Stephenson

To live a great life: Get paid to do your passion. Marry someone amazing. Take great care of
your health. Give back!
– Sean Stephenson

Until you take ownership for your life, you will always be chasing happiness.
– Sean Stephenson

Women don’t want a man to look a certain way. They want a man to make them feel a
certain way.
– Sean Stephenson

If we could get paid to be distracted, everyone would be rich!
– Sean Stephenson

You’re sad, angry, tired, or want to quit… so what? Do you want it, or do you just want
something to bitch about?
– Sean Stephenson

When we constantly focus on what others think of us (more correctly, what we think others
think of us), we make every decision in a space of hesitation and fear.
– Sean Stephenson

In the Great Depression there were more millionaires made per capita than any time in the
world.
– Sean Stephenson

The quality of your beliefs and the self-talk that supports those beliefs determine the quality
of your emotions.
– Sean Stephenson

The ability to manage your focus is one of your greatest powers. What you put your
attention on determines what you accomplish, how you feel, and what you can handle in

life.
You might even say that it has the biggest influence over what happens to you in life.
– Sean Stephenson

That which takes effort, improves your life.
– Sean Stephenson

We must respect ourselves. Practice talking to yourself the way you would talk to a best
friend, a mentor, or someone you really look up to. Trust me, life will place plenty of
obstacles in your path. You can’t afford to be one of them yourself.
– Sean Stephenson

I was just informed that people only listen to me because of my wheelchair. Humans can be
so silly sometimes, can’t they?
– Sean Stephenson

What people say about you is none of your business.
– Sean Stephenson

Self-reflection, when placed right in front of your face, can cause feelings of discomfort.
That’s why many alcoholics don’t like to drink alone, food addicts want you to join them in
dessert, and procrastinators want you to blow off your work and goof around with them.
– Sean Stephenson

We all want to be right. It’s what drains us most.
– Sean Stephenson

No matter who you are, you’re going to face people who refuse to see you get what you
want in your life. Who don’t want you to find love. Who will spite you if you make money.
Who will call you arrogant if you take great care of your body and sculpt your muscles.
However, don’t let them fool you, they don’t actually hate you. Doubt and fear is crushing
down on their chests, suffocating their souls. Their barks of hatred are actually
blood-curdling cries of envy, the result of self-disappointment.
– Sean Stephenson

Happiness is an interpretation, the optimistic interpretation of that which happens to you.
– Sean Stephenson

If you can navigate around the distractions the Universe will bow to your will.
– Sean Stephenson

Want more energy? Stop making excuses, complaining, and worrying. The body does not run
efficiently when fed that crap.
– Sean Stephenson

Do at least one thing a day that isn’t easy but rewarding.
– Sean Stephenson

Tell them what they want to hear, they’ll love you but grow weak. Tell them what they need
to hear, they’ll resent you but grow strong.
– Sean Stephenson

Clutter clogs creativity.
– Sean Stephenson

My personal remedy for stress requires no training and can be done anywhere, at any time,
by anyone. What is it? Laughter. The benefits of laughter are impressive. It boosts your
immune system, exercises practically every muscle group, and releases natural pain-relieving
chemicals into your bloodstream. Even a small amount of research into laughter yields an
overwhelming amount of evidence that laughter heals. In fact, even curving your mouth
upward in the semblance of a smile – no matter how you feel inside – stimulates your brain to
release healing chemicals into your system.
– Sean Stephenson

Want to be taken more seriously? Achieve greater results.
– Sean Stephenson

Some people would rather stay stuck on their BUTS, addicted to the certainty of failure, than
risk the possibility of disappointment.
– Sean Stephenson

If you can have fun even when you’re facing pain, life will be tremendously awesome!
– Sean Stephenson

It’s never your fault, but it’s always your responsibility.
– Sean Stephenson

In your Get Off Your BUT Now! journal, write down the names of five people you blame for all
the things that have gone wrong in your life. Forgiving these people is the key to your living
salvation. You don’t have to condone their actions to let them out of your head. You DO
have to absolve them of responsibility for your life.
– Sean Stephenson

Most people who are really negative don’t see themselves as negative. They see themselves
as being realistic and honest.
– Sean Stephenson

Make dreams happen for other people and you’ll be flooded with miracles.
– Sean Stephenson

Comparing ourselves to others is a game that ends badly no matter which way you play it. If
you act as if you’re worse off than others, you will believe it, and you will live your life feeling
inferior. If you act as if you’re superior to others, you’ll believe that too – and you’ll live a life
of arrogance; no one will want to be around you. This little mantra says it all: “Compare leads
to despair.”
– Sean Stephenson

Communication is merely an exchange of information, but connection is an exchange of our
humanity.
– Sean Stephenson

Fairness is an illusion. Fairness never existed and never will. No one in life gets less or more
than anyone else. We just get different stuff.
– Sean Stephenson

To go far you have to stop counting the miles and just celebrate the drive.
– Sean Stephenson

Once I get a client to accept the validity of this formula, 90 percent of our work is done.
Unfortunately, if a client will not agree to work with this formula, I am forced to end the
session and refund his money. Why? Because without acknowledgement of and commitment
to this formula, all other therapeutic techniques will fail.
This is the formula: C>E
See? I told you it was imple. C stands for Cause, and E stands for Effect. Cause is greater
than Effect. Each of us is living on one side or the other of this formula.
– Sean Stephenson

Making a mistake might cost you a job. Not making any mistakes will cost you your destiny.
– Sean Stephenson

Take care of your mind, body, and spirit and the rest will be handed to you on a silver
platter.
– Sean Stephenson

I’m not afraid to make mistakes, that’s why my life rocks!
– Sean Stephenson

There’s not a pharmaceutical in the world that can compete with the positive results of a
good night of restful sleep.
– Sean Stephenson

The happiest people I know don’t watch TV, they read books.
– Sean Stephenson

One of the greatest illusions of the mind is the belief that how you feel now is how you’ll
always feel.
– Sean Stephenson

Sometimes jerks win. So what? Doesn’t mean you have to be one to win.
– Sean Stephenson

Shy behaviour is triggered the second we start thinking about ourselves. The moment we
start thinking and acting selflessly, reaching out to help those around us, shyness subsides.
– Sean Stephenson

If you talked to your friends the way you talk to yourself, you probably wouldn’t have any
friends.
– Sean Stephenson

No one accidentally falls into a really crappy life. They built it slowly over years of neglecting
the essentials.
– Sean Stephenson

What’s popular isn’t always right, and what’s right isn’t always popular.
– Sean Stephenson

If you live at your personal best you’ll upset those who are afraid to live at theirs.
Never-the-less, proceed boldly.
– Sean Stephenson

I am honestly convinced there are two totally different versions of me. The refreshed bad-ass
and the tired dumb-ass.
– Sean Stephenson

Who’s on your pit crew? Take a good, honest look at the people you have selected to be in
your pit crew. Have you drafted any takers, drainers, or destroyers? In your Get Off Your BUT
Now! journal, make a list of your top five friends, the people you call when you’re having a
bad day. Ask yourself if they’re taking from, draining, or destroying you in any way.
– Sean Stephenson

You’re not “spiritual” if you talk trash about religion and you’re not “religious” if you judge the
hell out of others.
– Sean Stephenson

It’s so easy to wander through life acting as if everyone around you were a hologram, not
really there, separate from you. That is SO not true. We are all connected… Every form of
religion and science that I’ve ever studied always comes back to this very point: we’re all
connected.
– Sean Stephenson

A boy finds a girl to go bed with; a man finds a woman to wake up to.
– Sean Stephenson

When you place yourself in an environment, you eventually become the environment. It’s
inevitable. The right group of companions can be the greatest asset to your success and
well-being. The wrong group, however, can tear your life to pieces and send you careening
off a cliff.
– Sean Stephenson

Self-pity is a drug… Pity is a drug. Your first hit on the pity pipe makes you feel good, but it’s
just a temporary fix. All too soon, it leaves you in a darker place, craving more.
– Sean Stephenson