You can handle all your fears without having to control anything in the outside world.
– Susan Jeffers
The most important thing is for you to be your own best friend. Whatever you are doing – don’t put yourself down. Slowly begin to discover which, for you, is the path of the heart. Which path in life will make you grow? That is the path to take.
– Susan Jeffers
Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else. I said to myself: “You mean all those people out there that I’ve been envying because they’re not afraid to move ahead with their lives have really been afraid? Why didn’t somebody tell me!?” I guess I never asked.
– Susan Jeffers
You might already have been asking yourself, “Why should I put myself through all the discomfort that comes with taking risks? Why don’t I just go on living my life the way I’ve been living it?” You might find my answer to that question surprising. It is: Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying circumstances that come from a feeling of helplessness.
– Susan Jeffers
The bigger your life, the smaller your fear.
– Susan Jeffers
You may be surprised and encouraged to learn that while inability to deal with fear may look and feel like a psychological problem, in most cases it isn’t. I believe it is primarily an educational problem, and that by re-educating the mind, you can accept fear as simply a fact of life rather than a barrier to success.
– Susan Jeffers
Call someone you are intimidated to call, buy a pair of shoes that costs more than you would ever have paid in the past, ask for something you want that you have been too frightened to ask for before. Take a risk a day – one small or bold stroke that will make you feel great once you have done it.
– Susan Jeffers
I know that some fear is instinctual and healthy and keeps us alert to trouble. The rest – the part that holds us back from personal growth – is inappropriate and destructive, and perhaps can be blamed on our conditioning.
– Susan Jeffers
Say YES to life. Participate. Move. Act. Write. Read. Sign up. Take a stand. Or do whatever it takes for you. Get involved in the process. As Rollo May wrote in Man’s Search for Himself: “Every organism has one and only one central need in life, to fulfill its own potentialities.”
– Susan Jeffers
When we give from a place of love, rather than from a place of expectation, more usually comes back to us than we could ever have imagined.
– Susan Jeffers
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
– Susan Jeffers
Whenever we take a chance and enter unfamiliar territory or put ourselves into the world in a new way, we experience fear. Very often this fear keeps us from moving ahead with our lives. The trick is to feel the fear and do it anyway.
– Susan Jeffers
Are you a “victim,” or are you taking responsibility for your life? … Taking responsibility means never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having or feeling.
– Susan Jeffers
If we do not consciously and consistently focus on the spiritual part of ourselves, we will never experience the kind of joy, satisfaction, safety, and connectedness we are all seeking.
– Susan Jeffers
Taking responsibility means handling the Chatterbox. This is the little voice inside, the voice that tries to drive you crazy – and often succeeds! … if you are not aware of your Chatterbox, it sounds something like this: If I call him maybe he’ll think I’m too pushy, but maybe if I don’t call him, he’ll think I’m not interested. But if I call him and his message machine is on I’ll wonder where he is and it will ruin my whole evening because I’ll know he’s out with another woman, but if I don’t call him I’ll wonder anyway. Maybe I shouldn’t go out
tonight. He might call and then he’ll think I don’t care. But if I’ll call he’ll really… No wonder so many of us hate being alone and can’t be in a room without turning on the radio or television for company. Anything to escape such insanity!
– Susan Jeffers
All you have to do to find a way out of your self-imposed prison is to retrain your thinking.
– Susan Jeffers
Start thinking about yourself as a lifetime student at a large university. Your curriculum is your total relationship with the world you live in, from the moment you’re born to the moment you die. Each experience is a valuable lesson to be learned.
– Susan Jeffers
The world is filled with people who have been handed the “worst” life has to offer… and they have come out winners!
– Susan Jeffers
I can’t stress enough that positive thinking needs daily practice. I’ve been practicing it for years and still spend some time each day focusing on the elimination of negativity from my thinking.
– Susan Jeffers
This one is really tough! See if you can go one week without criticizing anyone or complaining about anything. You will be surprised how difficult this is. You will also be surprised to learn how much complaining and criticizing you do.
– Susan Jeffers
The less you need someone’s approval, the more you are able to love them.
– Susan Jeffers
Once you get your body in shape, you can’t stop working out. Within a short ime your muscles start losing tone, and where you once could do 50 sit-ups, 20 is now your maximum. You must keep at it. The intellect acts in the same way. When problem solving, stimulating discussion or reading is a part of your daily life, your mind is sharp. After a two-week vacation of lounging on the beach, your brain feels soggy.
– Susan Jeffers
If you haven’t made any mistakes lately, you must be doing something wrong.
– Susan Jeffers
Always phrase affirmations in the positive, rather than the negative:
Wrong: I am no longer putting myself down. Right: I am becoming more confident every day.
– Susan Jeffers
Many of us spend our lives waiting – waiting for the perfect mate, waiting for the perfect job, waiting for perfect friends to come along. There is no need to wait for anyone to give you anything in your life. You have the power to create what you need. Given commitment, clear goals and action, it’s just a matter of time.
– Susan Jeffers
You’re not a failure if you don’t make it; you’re a success because you try.
– Susan Jeffers
It is important to surround ourselves with giving, loving and nurturing people. This implies the flip side of the coin: You must become what you want to attract. Be the kind of person you would want to surround yourself with.
– Susan Jeffers
Positive thinking is one of the most difficult of all concepts to get across to people. When I present my ideas on positive thinking in my workshops and classes, many of my students respond immediately with “Oh, that’s not realistic!” … it is reported that over 90% of what we worry about never happens. That means that our negative worries have less than a 10% chance of being correct. If this is so, isn’t being positive more realistic than being negative?
– Susan Jeffers
One day a light bulb went on in my head as I suddenly realized the following “truth”: As long as I continued to push out into the world, as long as I continued to strech my capabilities, as long as I continued to take new risks in making my dreams come true, I was going to experience fear. What a revelation!
– Susan Jeffers
Taking responsibility means not blaming yourself. Anything that takes away your power or your pleasure makes you a victim. Dont make yourself a victim of yourself!
– Susan Jeffers
If everybody feels fear when approaching something totally new in life, yet so many are out there “doing it” despite their fear, then we must conclude that fear is not the problem.
– Susan Jeffers
When you make something happen, not only does the fear of the situation go away, but also you get a hig bonus: you do a lot toward building your self-confidence.
– Susan Jeffers
If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear?
– Susan Jeffers
All you have to do to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way!
– Susan Jeffers
Genuine giving is not only altruistic; it also makes us feel better.
– Susan Jeffers
People who refuse to take risks live with a feeling of dread that is far more severe than what they would feel if they took the risks necessary to make them less helpless – only they don’t know it!
– Susan Jeffers
To love is to be able to give. And now is the time to begin.
– Susan Jeffers
In saying “yes” lies the antidote to our fear. The phrase “say yes” means “to agree to” those things life hands us. Saying YES means letting go of resistance and letting in the possibilities that our universe offers in new ways of seeing the world. It means to relax bodily, and calmly survey the situation, thereby reducing upset and anxiety.
– Susan Jeffers
We have been taught to believe that negative equals realistic and positive equals unrealistic.
– Susan Jeffers